Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e38: Hard-Headed Children and Obstinate Adults?

  Last episode was bölüm/episode 37, which you can find with all of the other episodes, linked at the end of this review:     

     Would you call someone an adult, no matter how old, who refused to be reasonable?   In a child of Çilek’s age, unreasonableness may be annoying, even painful when the entire family suffers because of it, but not out of the ordinary.  When you have reached the age of four hundred years, however, one expects you to be able to see reason a bit better than a five year old.  Yet, Dudu refuses to accept the right of her daughters to live their own lives and make their own plans, while constantly turning down offers from Eda and others to go places.  Dudu wants both of her daughters there at home, her home, with her.  So, everyone is making plans, and both Dudu and Çilek are messing up those plans for all the family.  First, the kids want to spend time without their parents, and the parents want to go out to a taverna with Suzan and Avni, but Çilek, afraid of being left alone as Cem and Tuğçe pair up, while Ceren and Kerem do the same, leaving her with no one to play with, as often happens, refuses to agree to the plan.  Similarly, Dudu wants someone to play with, but at her house.    She even refuses, at first, to come watch the kids while the adults go out, after Çilek has a sudden change of heart upon meeting Kerem’s cousin, only a little bit older than herself, and giving her a pairing like the others.  Since it is near the end of the year, as many modern Turks do, the family puts up a Christmas tree, and wraps presents.  As the episode opens, by the way, we see Suzan wishing Betüş a happy end of year by pronouncing each of the words backwards, as she did when speaking with her childhood friends about things her parents couldn’t hear of, like her boyfriend, Avni.  While Betüş is very surprised to hear of this semi-private language, Sadik walks in to the cafe and immediately begins a conversation with Suzan in backward pronounced Turkish, citing nearly the same reasons:  he had a girlfriend unbeknownst to his parents, and to speak on the phone with her, they learned how to say many words backward so that the adults would not understand what he was saying.  Interestingly, the plot of this episode is a bit backward, since in the end, Dudu agrees to watch the kids, taking Taci with her, and they all end up having fun, with Taci temporarily turned into Santa Claus to distribute gifts, including the gift of his fists when Umur Bey shows up at the family home!  And this, after dropping all of his work for the day on Sadik so that he could go out that night with a young girl, who ended up leaving him.  Betüş saved Sadik’s evening by coming in to the office to speed type his data entry for him, but Umur Bey’s attempt to ruin the family’s evening clearly were not at an end.  Fortunately, Taci was on hand to deal with this, as Dudu celebrated, and the kids made comic remarks.  Overall, this is not one of my favorite episodes, but there are some fun moments, as always, and it is interesting to hear Betüş thinking of how much she is learning about human beings, as Sadik and Suzan laugh about how they needed to learn to speak in code as kids.  They both comment on how Betüş must have had a great deal of freedom as a child, and that is another interesting segue for which I will wait for comments.  Thoughts?

Next week we will see blm/ep. 39:   , all listed on the page for Sihirli Annem reviews, linked below as part of the work of Project Do Better, and showing how we can learn from story.

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Stories can help us learn:  Babylon5, Hakan:Muhafiz/The Protector, Sihirli Annem, Lupin, or La Casa De Papel/Money Heist, El Ministerio del Tiempo  Reviews Page,

And of course,

we can also just study, to learn the old fashioned way, using Holistic College Algebra & GED/HiSET Night School Lesson Plans Page,

           But learning by reading, both

novels and short stories or short true narratives that read like stories, is an effective emotional experience as well as learning experience:  My Nonfiction  & Historical Fiction Serial Writing Page.

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     Fellow Change Dreamers, does this episode, in your opinion(s), work as part of  #ProjectDoBetter and the work of providing learning tools via reviews of shows like Sihirli Annem,  and its idea for learning via story,  as part of  modeling emotional learning and maturation?

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Why A Real Safety Net is So Important

  This is what a governor is charged with doing.  Protecting vulnerable citizens when they most need to be protected, when they are most liable to be taken advantage of by those who lack scruples and decency.   Would that more officials had the means and the will to do this.

“Gov. Josh Green said Wednesday that he had instructed the state attorney general to work toward a moratorium on land transactions in Lahaina. He acknowledged the move will likely face legal challenges.

“My intention from start to finish is to make sure that no one is victimized from a land grab,” Green said at a news conference. “People are right now traumatized. Please do not approach them with an offer to buy their land. Do not approach their families saying they’ll be much better off if they make a deal. Because we’re not going to allow it.””

This is certainly also something that a very small but usable and basic home for each person, or maybe something that accomplishes the same effect as having an acre of land per person as a citizen and eventually even residential right, might help to prevent.   The being taken advantage of part is, when not involved in a survival level crisis, partly helped by the new Service Adulthood rite of passage, which would ensure that at the very least, every person learned to recognize and avoid scams, as part of Project Do Better.

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NPR’s website Thursday morning, 17.8.23, From the AP   

We can really Do Better for all of us:

      #ProjectDoBetter.

Shira Destinie A. Jones, MPhil, MAT, BSCS

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Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e33: Make Me Someone Else!

  Last episode was bölüm/episode 32:  Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e32: Beauty, Internal vs. External  ;   

     This week, we look at how children, like Cem, and even Eda, who acts very much like a child despite being the very same age as her fraternal twin sister -actually, she was born two seconds earlier, making her the revered Big Sister, but she still behaves like a little one.  And both children in this episode do what children often do, as they seek to become Adults: try on different identities.  At least she is finally growing up and out of the poor influence of her mother,  it seems.   This image refers to the first episode, and how Eda went along with Dudu:

“Mom went to ask for help to keep you from marrying a human man.”

   But, who would have thought that a fairy would want to be human?  Fairies, after all, aren’t exactly little wooden Pinocchios, right?  Reminds me of a K-drama someone told me about called Doom, At Your Service, about a Pinocchio retelling where the puppet starts out as a sort of Grim Reaper.  In any case, in this episode, we see Eda Fairy starting to really mature, while young Cem is still not maturing, at least not on his own, but he is getting a little help from his girlfriend, finally.  Note that the Youtube version of this episode cut out the pop song, likely due to copyright infringement issues, but it is all there in the original, which should still be back on Kanal D (sorry, no CCs or subtitles as far as I know on Kanal D, and I am still not sure how the hard of hearing watch shows in Turkey, as the European Union requires all shows to be CCd for the hearing impaired, from what I have seen on both French and Spanish public television…).  So, I’m sure I am not the only person who sees this one as  the ‘Calgon, Make me someone else!! ‘ episode.  It does sort of remind me of those old commercials, if anyone else remembers them from the 1970s, or maybe the 80s.  Eda says ‘Perihan, make me a human being!’ while young Cem says, ‘Little Sisters, make me my girlfriend’s favorite singer!’   Obviously, neither of these requests goes as planned.  But I love Eda’s reasons for wanting to try out being human for a day.  She finds her life empty, as Perihan explains, without a large challenge/purpose/end goal/larger meaning for her life.  While Good Fairies are supposed to serve the needs of humanity, they are actually rather limited in what they are allowed to do, for just this reason, as we see discussed in an earlier episode on striving.

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Next week we will see blm/ep. 34, on striving to learn,

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Stories can help us learn:  Babylon5, Hakan:Muhafiz/The Protector, Sihirli Annem, Lupin, or La Casa De Papel/Money Heist, El Ministerio del Tiempo  Reviews Page,

And of course,

we can also just study, to learn the old fashioned way, using Holistic College Algebra & GED/HiSET Night School Lesson Plans Page,

           But learning by reading, both

novels and short stories or short true narratives that read like stories, is an effective emotional experience as well as learning experience:  My Nonfiction  & Historical Fiction Serial Writing Page.

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     Fellow Change Dreamers, does this episode, in your opinion(s), work as part of  #ProjectDoBetter,  to model emotional learning and maturation?

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SoL Saturdays Update, Context, PTSD, Homelessness & Debt: Project Do Better

What we still need our pre-adults to show, both for maturity, and also for recognition of Service Adulthood (Phase II of Project Do Better…), is mastery of a key set of impulse control and emotional skills.

There should likely be a set of standards, but that is up to your community.

They may be edited by you, via an editable version of the Do Better man.  

Then the prerequisites which are essentially being able to defend oneself physically, financially, and emotionally:

 

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from the original idea first posted on this site around May 7th, 12017 HE, but mentioned previously as early as 2011 or so on LiveJournal, Facebook, and Dreamwidth, before I wrote it all up into my current freely available book for community organizers: 

   

1.1.12018 update:  and scans of my long-term project (The Adulthood Challenge project) to build a movement in 4 parts toward Roosevelt’s Four Freedoms…) replaced with above link to Project Do Better book (free downloads in multiple formats).   Here is some of how I conceptualized Phase II, the Service Adulthood Challenge:      

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Turkish Tuesday: Sihirli Annem (s1e14) and What Does it Mean, Adulthood?

  Last week was , bölüm/episode 13: Turkish Tuesday: Sihirli Annem (s1e13) And Would You Want to Go Back & Be Young Again? …  

The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.

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Dudu finds out that the magic of male fairies is stronger than that of female ones (there is gender inequality even in the fairy realm). Therefore Dudu hatches the plan to wed Eda with a fairy so that Dudu can use his magic to break up Sadik and Betüs.

Eda does not want to marry a fairy, but a mortal. She explains:

“…the mortal world isn’t like that.  They have to struggle for what they want.   One who worries about me, is sometimes jealous, no magic, but full of surprises.  That is the kind of man I want to marry.”

At the same time Sadik’s younger brother Tarik comes to visit, just back from military service. Firuze used to be in love with him and did not forgive him that he did not reciprocate the feelings. Sadik is not enthusiastic about his brother’s visit, as he is not a man after Sadik’s taste, but more a grown up child. The kids love their uncle for that.

      “Hey, don’t start gossiping about me as soon as I get here!”

Eda leaves the castle and hides at Betüs’s place, where she meets Tarik and the two fall in love with each other at first sight. This is the first time somebody falls in love with her without her using magic.

Dudu doesn’t like that and takes her home.

The chief fairy learns about Dudu’s evil plans and punishes her, leaving Eda free to go back to Betüs. Betüs and Sadik leave Eda and Tarik by themselves and pretend to have to talk to the children. (It is actually only Betüs who does that on purpose, Sadik is clueless.)

That ends in an epic cushion fight, while Eda and Tarik look each other deep in the eyes.

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Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for all of the of the English and image content, today.

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       This episode is a fascinating study in both the question of what adulthood means to different generations, and in who gets to define that state.  Both Sadık and Dudu, in my humble opinion, fall into the same trap, in this episode, while Eda actually climbs out of a similar trap, or begins to, this episode.  Sadık, because he demands that his younger brother learn how to start acting “like a man” by the traditional definition, meaning job, house, wife, and kids.  As Sadık himself has done.  But that is not the sort of life that his brother wants.  Likewise with Dudu, as we already know, she feels strongly that only a certain kind of marriage is acceptable, and is perfectly happy to arrange a miserable marriage for her daughter Eda, who protests this idea kicking and screaming, literally.  Both Sadık and Dudu deny the possibility of defining one’s own life goals and perspective, and they both fall back on predefined traditional ideas of what it means to be an adult, and whom a person should marry.   Finally, Eda, in telling her sister that she finally understands how she must feel, being persecuted all of this time by Dudu, takes a great leap forward, and out of that same trap of thinking that one must accept only a certain way of thinking.  But look how long it has taken Eda, and how she had to be placed in the same situation before she began to see her sister’s perspective.

         Project Do Better looks at this question in detail, during Phase II especially.  Adulthood, in a democratic society, requires large amounts of compassion and empathy, as well as critical thinking and the freedom to be a contributing adult in the way best fitting for each person.

        Hopefully, the empathy that studying languages builds, and a little more good example via story, will help all of us learn to see from the perspectives of others, without having to suffer a similar fate or pain, first.

Next week will be blm/ep. 15: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom: s1e15), and Dealing With Hypocrites  ,

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Shira Destinie A.  Jones, MPhil

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Turkish Tuesdays: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mother): Things Are NOT Always As They Seem, Avni…

        Last week we met some human and Fairy ‘bosses’ in the first 35 minutes of Bölüm 1/Episode 1: Turkish Tuesdays: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mother): Jealousy is Not Love…

As I noted previously, the Youtube videos have  CCs in  Turkish, and most also have subtitles in English…), and having the Closed Captions available makes it easy to go back and read the words missed in listening, greatly speeding my language learning.  I hope it does the same for you.

    Now, Poor Avni is making excuses to talk his way into the home and search for magical… brooms? 

Seriously, Avni?  Adults (who are not crazy) continue to learn  multiple ways to distinguish between illogical conclusions and logical possibilities.

Next week we continue with bolum 1 / episode 1, at 37 minutes into the hour long video:  Turkish Tuesdays: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mother): Worker Owned Women’s Business Role Models ;

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Action Items:

1.) Share two different sources related to the Sihirli Annem series, and to the tie ins with interracial marriage and same sex marriage,  to this series.

2.) Share your thoughts on how a TV show might help, or hinder, inclusive thinking,

3.) Write a story, post or tweet that uses those thoughts.

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Writing Process: Removing a Darling Comment

     Volunteering can be most difficult in health settings.   This is part of what Phase II will help build,  starting about 15-20 years from now as Phase I draws to a close, by building a cadre of Serving Adults (and here is the comment I removed): 

A timeline for building support for a robust public health system could run as long as the generation currently in charge of funding the system, but that is time we do not have.

     So, I continue to work on draft #6 Project Do Better’s manifesto,

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 now re-writing Part II.    I Just found and added Austria’s new train service, which is how Phase I helps get us to Phase II, on page 110!! 

     I look forward to hearing your opinions, Thoughtful Readers.

We can really  Do Better.

-Shira   

 

Action Prompts:

    Share your thoughts on how to build buy-in create a more equal, or at least less inequitable, society, please.   Guest posts are always welcome.  Writing, by the way, is my personal contribution to Project Do Better. 

What would yours be, if you had time?

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Service Adulthood Began Early, With Compassion In Oakland

     Volunteering can take many forms, whether by helping, as the CCC did (and does, in California), with nature and infrastructure maintenance, or by helping to keep others safe, as this new organization is doing in response to recent hate crimes.   This is part of what Phase II will work toward on a larger scale,  starting about 15-20 years from now as Phase I draws to a close, by building a cadre of Serving Adults: 

“…700 people of all races and backgrounds have volunteered to work with Compassion in Oakland.“

     So, I continue to work on Project Do Better’s manifesto, now re-writing Part II.

     I look forward to hearing your opinions, Thoughtful Readers.

We can really  Do Better.

-Shira   

 

Action Prompts:

    Share your thoughts on how to build buy-in create a more equal, or at least less inequitable, society, please.   Guest posts are always welcome.  Writing, by the way, is my personal contribution to Project Do Better. 

What would yours be, if you had time?

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Shira Destinie A. Jones, MPhil, MAT, BsCs

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Loup: Nicolas Vanier

(English is below…)

Cette histoire de devenir adulte faisait plaisir à lire. (J’aimerais voir le film de 2009.) Vanier a réussi très tôt de faire sentir l’empathie pour un prédateur qu’il montre tel comme il est, et avec des détails. Il m’a réussi d’étonner, aussi, côte émotionnelle chez les hommes, en montrant qu’il est bien possible qu’an homme aussi peut se sentir abusé sexuellement par une femme, même après avoir fait l’amour volontairement. Jamais trop douce, on sent la dureté des deux mondes, humain tant que lupin, en sentant aussi (pour moi, au moins) connecté avec tous les deux. Du bon boulot émotionnelle et aussi d’un point de vue écolo.
(Si vous avez, les Amies, des corrections pour mon français, j’accepte volontiers…)

This was a very interesting and well-written coming-of-age story. (I’d like to see the 2009 film version.) Vanier manages early on to build reader sympathy for a predator which he show as such, in detail. He also surprised me by showing the shame of a man being willingly taken advantage of sexually by a woman (something I will grudgingly admit to never having believed possible). Never mincing his words, you feel the harshness of both worlds, human and wolf, while also feeling (for me, at least) connected to both. An excellent job emotionally and also from an ecology standpoint.

Originally posted 21 November, 12015 HE

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older French Fridays, et Adulte ?

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