Turkish Tuesday: Sihirli Annem (s1e14) and What Does it Mean, Adulthood?

  Last week was , bölüm/episode 13: Turkish Tuesday: Sihirli Annem (s1e13) And Would You Want to Go Back & Be Young Again? 

The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.

Dudu finds out that the magic of male fairies is stronger than that of female ones (there is gender inequality even in the fairy realm). Therefore Dudu hatches the plan to wed Eda with a fairy so that Dudu can use his magic to break up Sadik and Betüs.

Eda does not want to marry a fairy, but a mortal. She explains:

“…the mortal world isn’t like that.  They have to struggle for what they want.   One who worries about me, is sometimes jealous, no magic, but full of surprises.  That is the kind of man I want to marry.”

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At the same time Sadik’s younger brother Tarik comes to visit, just back from military service. Firuze used to be in love with him and did not forgive him that he did not reciprocate the feelings. Sadik is not enthusiastic about his brother’s visit, as he is not a man after Sadik’s taste, but more a grown up child. The kids love their uncle for that.

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      “Hey, don’t start gossiping about me as soon as I get here!”

Eda leaves the castle and hides at Betüs’s place, where she meets Tarik and the two fall in love with each other at first sight. This is the first time somebody falls in love with her without her using magic.

Dudu doesn’t like that and takes her home.

The chief fairy learns about Dudu’s evil plans and punishes her, leaving Eda free to go back to Betüs. Betüs and Sadik leave Eda and Tarik by themselves and pretend to have to talk to the children. (It is actually only Betüs who does that on purpose, Sadik is clueless.)

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That ends in an epic cushion fight, while Eda and Tarik look each other deep in the eyes.

Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for all of the of the English and image content, today.
       This episode is a fascinating study in both the question of what adulthood means to different generations, and in who gets to define that state.  Both Sadık and Dudu, in my humble opinion, fall into the same trap, in this episode, while Eda actually climbs out of a similar trap, or begins to, this episode.  Sadık, because he demands that his younger brother learn how to start acting “like a man” by the traditional definition, meaning job, house, wife, and kids.  As Sadık himself has done.  But that is not the sort of life that his brother wants.  Likewise with Dudu, as we already know, she feels strongly that only a certain kind of marriage is acceptable, and is perfectly happy to arrange a miserable marriage for her daughter Eda, who protests this idea kicking and screaming, literally.  Both Sadık and Dudu deny the possibility of defining one’s own life goals and perspective, and they both fall back on predefined traditional ideas of what it means to be an adult, and whom a person should marry.   Finally, Eda, in telling her sister that she finally understands how she must feel, being persecuted all of this time by Dudu, takes a great leap forward, and out of that same trap of thinking that one must accept only a certain way of thinking.  But look how long it has taken Eda, and how she had to be placed in the same situation before she began to see her sister’s perspective.
         Project Do Better looks at this question in detail, during Phase II especially.  Adulthood, in a democratic society, requires large amounts of compassion and empathy, as well as critical thinking and the freedom to be a contributing adult in the way best fitting for each person.
        Hopefully, the empathy that studying languages builds, and a little more good example via story, will help all of us learn to see from the perspectives of others, without having to suffer a similar fate or pain, first.
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16 thoughts on “Turkish Tuesday: Sihirli Annem (s1e14) and What Does it Mean, Adulthood?

  1. I agree, traditions are not valid forever and never for everybody. We need to decide ourselves how we are going to live. If Tarik and Eda were happy with their life they shouldn’t be told how they should live instead.
    There is just one think I didn’t like about Tarik, and that was that he relied on the fact that his brother would take care of him. That is very much against my own need to be independent from others. But he says that for Eda he would want to change and take care of them himself. So there was some kind of insight in him.

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        1. Of course, and it should be different, otherwise the world would be a very boring place, no? And those differences help both solving problems, as different perspectives are needed to create different solutions according to local circumstances, and also to provide the understanding that each human being really is a unique person, given that each of us lives a different set of experiences shaped by personality, insights, imagination, etc. But each person, imho, has a duty to contribute *something* to humanity.

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    1. Also relates to who we wanted to be as adults:

      I had plans to serve as an officer and then with NASA, but I knew that for me, service was the most important choice, to make a difference in the world, and I had been taught that there were certain ways to do that, and that certain things were expected of me. That future, for me, was something I almost had no choice but to think on carefully, as a kid, because my childhood was so miserable that I always focused on the future, and how to make the world less miserable for others who followed in this world. But I had no idea that my conception of how to make a difference in the world would change so radically in just a few years, after the experience of attending the US Naval Academy. Looking back, I am very glad to have had the flexibility to find other ways of achieving that goal, as I am now indeed far closer to who I wanted to be when I was young.

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