Last week was bölüm/episode 24 ( Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e24: Double Standards For Girls and For Boys? )
The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.
Cilek, the little adopted fairy girl, comes home from Kindergarten with the message that she learned that one does not have secrets from one’s best friends. Therefore, she plans to tell her siblings Cem and Ceren and their father Sadik that she is a fairy.
“In my dream, I confessed to dad and my siblings that I am a Fairy.”
Betüs has a hard time talking her out of it. She explains that getting everything by magic interferes with the human way of life, which is having to strive to fulfill their dreams. Fairies should only use magic to help humans in emergency situations.
At the same time, Tarik is fed up with living in Dudu’s house, as she treats him with despise. He has found a little house near Betüs and Sadik and asks Eda to leave her mother’s place with him.
We’ve decided to leave Dudu’s house and move to our own home.
They persuade Sadik and Betüs to go for breakfast at Dudu’s house and talk their case, which does not go very well. Dudu is threatening her daughter, but Eda decides to go with Tarik. That leaves Dudu angry but also surprised. She turns Taci into a cow, because she blames him for encouraging the young people.
Avni still wants to prove to his wife that fairies exist. She is desperate and tells him that she wants to divorce him and throws him out of the house in his pajamas. He goes to Sadik’s office, who invites him to stay him them. Betüs does the same with Susan, so that she and Avni meet there.
Dudu is working on a new enchantment that will make Eda leave her husband and return to her mother. When the enchantment kicks in, Eda, Tarik and Betüs are at the café. Eda had just confirmed that she has chosen Tarik, when suddenly she starts crying and wants to go home to her mother. Tarik is disappointed and also angry. But, in the end Dudu doesn’t get it quite like she wanted.
(I am not alone, Tarik …) [A moment later, Dudu is not smiling anymore … 😉 ]
Tarık also came back.
In the meantime, Cilek tells Betüs that she wants to save the marriage of Avni and Susan with a magic that her grandmother used to do, make them forget what they were fighting about, this would figure as an emergency, wouldn’t it? Betüs allows it and it works.
Cem, dear, Uncle Avni and I came to visit you all.
I learned early on that it is not advisable to tell anybody everything. I learned to ask myself: Will they be able to understand at all? Will it upset them too much?
My conflict always was to find out whether I was authorized to completely rattle somebody’s world/thinking patters, or if that even was maybe my duty to do so?
With some people it is no use trying though. My elder brother for example (may he rest in peace) would not even try to see things from another person’s perspective. What he didn’t understand was stupid, easy peasy. This is a bit the reaction of people towards Avni’s fairy obsession. They are too afraid of the possibility that fairies might exist, so it must be denied and suppressed, if need be, with violence. I sometimes wonder why Betüs or Perihan don’t delete the fairy memory from his brain, but then this funny element would be missing in the story, won’t it? It seems a bit cruel though. In Avni’s case, with the reactions he gets, I would stop telling other people about the fairies … 😉
My comments are that I agree with Birgit, except that in an earlier episode they actually did wipe Avni’s memory (Perhan did the magic
, I believe), but they did not think to wipe Suzan’s memory as well (or they could not, without permission from the Fairy Council, which they got in order to wipe Avni’s mind), and when Suzan refused to believe that Avni had no recollection of Fairies, he went to look, in order to see why she was talking about him looking out the window, and then he saw them, again!! That second time he figured out that Fairies exist was unwipable, apparently. I’ll have to go back later to find the episode in which this happens, but I am sure that it was relatively early on. This is an episode that I recall being struck by when I first saw it, back in 2005, given the damage that keeping secrets can do, especially to young children. Most of the time, those secrets are the secrets of adults being hung around the necks of the children whom they are abusing (at least in my personal experience). This is one reason that Project Do Better works hard, especially in Phase II (starting in about 12 years or so, unless communities update the manual for their own communities to start it earlier), to arm kids with weapons for emotional and physical self-defense as well as the financial self-defense tool education begun earlier (now) in Phase I.
And the most beautiful, for me, moment in this episode is in minute 24 and 25 of the episode, when Betüş explains to Çilek that it is in the striving to accomplish things, as with the time that Çilek took to draw her drawing, rather than making it all appear by magic immediately, that people find fulfillment. Little Çilek finally understands, through that comparison, why Fairies are only allowed to help humans in the most dire and difficult/impossible of circumstances. Because, it is in the solving of our problems, through great striving, that we find our meaning.
We also see, in this episode, how Dudu finally confesses that it is loneliness, or fear of being alone, that drives her to want to keep her daughters at her side. When she says that no one comes over to eat with her, nor invites her over to eat with them, it hurts. When Taci has a dig at her for having Umur over, she points out that she has no one else to talk with (since she refuses to treat Taci as a reasonable person). Her insecurity both drives others away, and causes her own misery, to which others have not responded as kindly as they perhaps could. What do you think, Kind Readers?
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