Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e25: Secrets Hurt, But Striving Helps

  Last week was bölüm/episode 24 ( Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e24: Double Standards For Girls and For Boys? )

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The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.

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Cilek, the little adopted fairy girl, comes home from Kindergarten with the message that she learned that one does not have secrets from one’s best friends. Therefore, she plans to tell her siblings Cem and Ceren and their father Sadik that she is a fairy.

“In my dream, I confessed to dad and my siblings that I am a Fairy.”

Betüs has a hard time talking her out of it. She explains that getting everything by magic interferes with the human way of life, which is having to strive to fulfill their dreams. Fairies should only use magic to help humans in emergency situations.

At the same time, Tarik is fed up with living in Dudu’s house, as she treats him with despise. He has found a little house near Betüs and Sadik and asks Eda to leave her mother’s place with him.

We’ve decided to leave Dudu’s house and move to our own home.

They persuade Sadik and Betüs to go for breakfast at Dudu’s house and talk their case, which does not go very well. Dudu is threatening her daughter, but Eda decides to go with Tarik. That leaves Dudu angry but also surprised. She turns Taci into a cow, because she blames him for encouraging the young people.

Avni still wants to prove to his wife that fairies exist. She is desperate and tells him that she wants to divorce him and throws him out of the house in his pajamas. He goes to Sadik’s office, who invites him to stay him them. Betüs does the same with Susan, so that she and Avni meet there.

Dudu is working on a new enchantment that will make Eda leave her husband and return to her mother. When the enchantment kicks in, Eda, Tarik and Betüs are at the café. Eda had just confirmed that she has chosen Tarik, when suddenly she starts crying and wants to go home to her mother. Tarik is disappointed and also angry. But, in the end Dudu doesn’t get it quite like she wanted.

(I am not alone, Tarik …) [A moment later, Dudu is not smiling anymore … 😉 ]

Tarık also came back.

In the meantime, Cilek tells Betüs that she wants to save the marriage of Avni and Susan with a magic that her grandmother used to do, make them forget what they were fighting about, this would figure as an emergency, wouldn’t it? Betüs allows it and it works.

Cem, dear, Uncle Avni and I came to visit you all.

Remarks:

I learned early on that it is not advisable to tell anybody everything. I learned to ask myself: Will they be able to understand at all? Will it upset them too much?

My conflict always was to find out whether I was authorized to completely rattle somebody’s world/thinking patters, or if that even was maybe my duty to do so?

With some people it is no use trying though. My elder brother for example (may he rest in peace) would not even try to see things from another person’s perspective. What he didn’t understand was stupid, easy peasy. This is a bit the reaction of people towards Avni’s fairy obsession. They are too afraid of the possibility that fairies might exist, so it must be denied and suppressed, if need be, with violence. I sometimes wonder why Betüs or Perihan don’t delete the fairy memory from his brain, but then this funny element would be missing in the story, won’t it? It seems a bit cruel though. In Avni’s case, with the reactions he gets, I would stop telling other people about the fairies … 😉

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     Many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for today’s summary.

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     My comments are that I agree with Birgit, except that in an earlier episode they actually did wipe Avni’s memory (Perhan did the magic, I believe), but they did not think to wipe Suzan’s memory as well (or they could not, without permission from the Fairy Council, which they got in order to wipe Avni’s mind), and when Suzan refused to believe that Avni had no recollection of Fairies, he went to look, in order to see why she was talking about him looking out the window, and then he saw them, again!!  That second time he figured out that Fairies exist was unwipable, apparently.  I’ll have to go back later to find the episode in which this happens, but I am sure that it was relatively early on.  This is an episode that I recall being struck by when I first saw it, back in 2005, given the damage that keeping secrets can do, especially to young children.  Most of the time, those secrets are the secrets of adults being hung around the necks of the children whom they are abusing (at least in my personal experience).  This is one reason that Project Do Better works hard, especially in Phase II (starting in about 12 years or so, unless communities update the manual for their own communities to start it earlier), to arm kids with weapons for emotional and physical self-defense as well as the financial self-defense tool education begun earlier (now) in Phase I.

     And the most beautiful, for me, moment in this episode is in minute 24 and 25 of the episode, when Betüş explains to Çilek that it is in the striving to accomplish things, as with the time that Çilek took to draw her drawing, rather than making it all appear by magic immediately, that people find fulfillment.  Little Çilek finally understands, through that comparison, why Fairies are only allowed to help humans in the most dire and difficult/impossible of circumstances.  Because, it is in the solving of our problems, through great striving, that we find our meaning.

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     We also see, in this episode, how Dudu finally confesses that it is loneliness, or fear of being alone, that drives her to want to keep her daughters at her side.  When she says that no one comes over to eat with her, nor invites her over to eat with them, it hurts.  When Taci has a dig at her for having Umur over, she points out that she has no one else to talk with (since she refuses to treat Taci as a reasonable person).  Her insecurity both drives others away, and causes her own misery, to which others have not responded as kindly as they perhaps could.  What do you think, Kind Readers?

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Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e24: Double Standards For Girls and For Boys?

  Last week was bölüm/episode 23 of Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom): Who’s The Naughty Girl, Here?      

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The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.

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The main topic in this episode was – in my eyes – the protectiveness of brothers and fathers towards their sisters and daughters. This topic pops up in between in episodes, and the discussion points always seem to be the same.

Cem the son behaves protective, but also domineering towards his sister, wanting to dictate to her what she can and cannot do, while he is claiming to have the right do exactly that same thing himself. He beat up a boy at school because his sister likes him. He himself has a girlfriend, with whom he spends time alone in his room though. Sadik, his father, encourages this behaviour because he does not want his daughter to have a boyfriend yet either, although he does not mind that his son has a girlfriend. Betüs is angry about this double standard treatment.

Betüs and Eda’s uncle, their mother’s elder brother, is coming to visit, and when he hears that Dudu has a new boyfriend, he plans to let him undergo a love test to see if he is good enough for his sister. He shows the same attitude towards Dudu that Cem shows towards Ceren.

And without passing a big brother’s test, how can she see a man?

Eda and Tarik are living with Dudu, which was one of the conditions for accepting him as her son in law. The second was that he should have a job, which he has. He is the doing the new bring-out service for Betüs’s café. Betüs invited her uncle and Eda to the café, but Umur is also coming there, so the uncle puts him on the spot right away.

You should have seen Umur Bey’s face.

Susan’s husband Avni is receiving the orders on a new website and passes them on to Susan and Betüs. At the same time, he has fixed a camera overlooking Sadik’s and his family’s front door to look out for fairies on the computer screen. He can then tell Susan without lying that he is not watching fairies with binoculars.

Come on, Fairies, please, just let me see you one time before Suzan comes home?

A turn in the matter of brothers and fathers acting domineering towards their sisters and daughters gets a new spin when Cem’s girlfriend Tugce asks him how he would like it if her brother would beat him up out of love and protectiveness. Cem wouldn’t like that at all, and it makes him reflect. He apologizes to his sister.

Umur, Dudu’s new boyfriend passes the love test after one failed try: he was supposed to tell everybody in Istanbul that he loves Dudu. At his first try he dressed like a poor man and played dumb only mouthing the words to people, which Dudu and the others considered cheating. Umur regretted his action and did it as demanded of him, and therewith finally passed the test and Dudu’s brother declared him worthy of her (Taci and his daughters did not agree though).

I love Dudu!

This double standard matter really annoyed me this time. Does one really have the right to dominate another person and restricts his/hers freedom and give love and concern as justification?

Is it not better, as Betüs suggests to Sadik, to trust both, sons and daughters the same way, and talk to them explaining the anxiety a parent has for the children?

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   Exactly my view, too!  Many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for today’s summary.

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Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e23: Who’s The Naughty Girl, Here?

Last week was , bölüm/episode 22:  Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e22: Patience Is An Adult Virtue, As Is Finding Solutions…   .

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This episode deals with Cilek being a naughty girl at the Kindergarten and Eda not wanting to give up on Tarik. That makes her naughty in Dudu’s, her mother’s eyes. The situation doesn’t get easier when Tarik suddenly gets the idea to propose to Eda and ask Dudu for her hand. But let’s start at the beginning …

Cilek wanted so much to go to Kindergarten and get friends, but when she is finally allowed to go there, the other children tease her because of her red hair. It ends with Cilek making mischief with magic every day, so that other kids get either freckles or red hair. The teacher thinks, of course, that Cilek has done that with paint resp. hair dye. Betüs is angry and doesn’t know what to do so that Cilek does not react like that each time. She advises her to first talk to her friends when somebody is teasing her, and then to a teacher, instead of taking revenge.

Remember, from now on, you are not allowed to do any magic, ok?

In the end they make up when Cilek promises not to do something like that ever again.

In the meantime, in the castle, Dudu is preparing magic to separate Eda and Tarik …

Perihan arrives, and Dudu tries to hide her magic from her, a clear indication that it was not good magic.

Tarik meanwhile has a man to man talk with his brother and tells him about his proposal plans. Sadik warns him that Dudu will not accept him as son in law and will cause problems. But Tarik is not to be stopped. He goes to meet Eda at Betüs’s café and proposes to her. She is happy but clearly afraid of her mother. Tarik only hears that she wants him as her husband and is happy. Afterwards he goes to Sadik’s and Betüs’s house to inform the family, and Eda goes home to her mother to do the same.

However, when Eda tells her mother, it does not go so smoothly, but Eda seems to have found a new strength and resolve.

If you do not let us marry, Tarik and I will elope.

This remark seems to give Dudu another fairy heart attack.

Betüs is very concerned when she hears of the marriage plans, especially the eloping plan in case of non-consent from Dudu’s side. Tarik and Sadik persuade her to go to the castle to sound out the situation there.

When she arrives there, she finds Dudu lying on the floor and Perihan and Eda trying to revive her. Taji calls out her bluff saying that she is just pretending, to which Dudu reacts and shows that she is actually fine. As she cannot force Eda to renounce Tarik, she puts a magic barrier around the castle and cuts off the telephone. But Tarik will not be discouraged, he is determined to go to Dudu’s house in the evening and ask for Eda’s hand.

But he meets Dudu already when he goes to Sadik’s office, where she is to see her boyfriend Umur. Tarik decides to talk to her then and there despite his brother’s warning. It does not go so well …

No daughter of mine will marry you, get that through your head!

After Eda refuses to eat for an entire week and doesn’t talk to her mother, Dudu finally agrees to let her marry Tarik under the condition that they live with her in her house. The other condition would be that Tarik would find a fulltime job because she needs him out of the house so that she can do magic.

Eda plays down the first condition to Tarik, calls it “for the time being”, and Betüs gives him a job at the café, home delivering cakes. For the administration of these orders on the computer they hire Avni, Susan’s husband and hope that it will occupy him enough to forget about watching fairies.

“For the time being”: all is well that ends well … stay tuned!

Many, many thanks, Birgit, for today’s summary.

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     Naughtiness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder, right Dudu Fairy?

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Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e22: Patience Is An Adult Virtue, As Is Finding Solutions…

  Last week was , bölüm/episode 21: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e21: How Would YOU Feel…    This week, we see that patience is a virtue, as Betüş explains to little Çilek when her friend Alara calls from the Fairy Orphanage.  Çilek wants to go get her right away, but Betüş explains that the humans would have many questions if they just showed up with her friend at the door, so that it was better to have Perihan bring her, which made sense to Çilek.  Çilek then manages to explain to her friend Alara that she must have patience to find a family of her own, as an orphan.  More about that at the end.  Meanwhile, young Cem, on the other hand, has far less patience with his father, as Cem seems to believe that eleven years old is adult enough not to need parental permission for anything.  Tarık, likewise, has no patience for Eda’s concern about Taci, as we will see from Birgit’s summary:

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     This episode starts with Sadik preparing breakfast as he has a day off work. Celik helps him and while he talks on the phone, she toasts the bread and cooks the eggs with magic. Sadik doesn’t understand how she could have done it so quickly; did he really talk that long with his mother?

Celik then goes upstairs to wake up the rest of the family. While she is in her parent’s bedroom with Betüsh, they get a call through the magic crystal ball. It is her best friend Alara from the fairy orphanage.

They agree that she will come to visit Celik that day. Betüsh reminds Celik that they must not perform any magic, because the mortals around them don’t know that they are fairies.

Cem and Ceren hope that Cilek’s friend will be adopted by a family. They find the concept of orphans very sad.

In the meantime, at Dudu’s castle, Taci the dog/ex-husband/father of Betüsh and Eda has fallen sick and has a high fever. Eda is devastated and asks her mother to come home. Dudu, however, believes that Taci is only pretending to keep her from meeting Umur her new boyfriend and doesn’t return home. Eda takes her father to the hospital where they tell her that it is a serious infection for a human of 60 years even in dog shape. Eda is behaving very responsible in this situation, stays with her father, prepares soup for him and tries to make him eat and give him comfort. We have seen it in an earlier episode that she is able to take action when she is concerned about her father, whom she seems to love very much.

Get well soon, Mr. Taci.

Eda calls Betüsh’s house and she immediately goes to the castle to see what she can do.

Her dog is ill.  Her Majesty Eda puts it first.

At Sadik’s place, Tarik is angry because Eda won’t meet him, he would stay home and take care of the dog. Sadik is also a bit disappointed because it is his only day off work. Both men think that the women are overreacting over the dog, of course, they don’t know that he is their father. Sadik tries to plead for understanding though.

Meanwhile, the two girls upstairs in their room do all kinds of magic, letting things fly, make themselves taller, and Avni the neighbour sees it all with his binoculars. He rushes to the café where his wife works to tell her and make her witness it. But as soon as the girls hear people coming upstairs they stop the magic and sit innocently on the bed. That happens twice, and in the end Avni is ridiculed again and nobody believes him because only he saw it. That seems to be poor Avni’s fate. Alara’s and Suzan’s eyes meet, and Suzan is touched in her heart.

Dudu is finally convinced that something really is wrong with Taci, when Betüsh calls her, and rushes home to do some healing magic. She succeeds in getting Taci’s fever down.

That’s all I need, right, so Eda gets to put a dog above me?

Now also Umur is thinking that they make too much fuss about the dog.

Sadik talks to his son about the importance to ask permission for going out with his girlfriend, as he is only 11 years old. He explains to him that parents are concerned about their children, and, therefore, they are anxious to know where they are. They want to protect them from the dangers of the world. Cem seems to understand that.

Everybody tells Suzan that she and Avni should get a child, and then he would forget about all the fairy nonsense, but Suzan can’t have children anymore. When she talks to Betüsh about adoption, she remembers the little girl Alara and wishes to adopt her, asking Betüsh for help. Betüsh is not enthusiastic about the idea because Alara is a fairy and a little naughty one and already got caught by Avni twice. She needs to think about a way to make this not happen. This is where the episode ends.

Things are often not as we think they are.

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Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for most of the of the summary, and for all of the images, today.

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      This episode really shows how much an orphan wants a family.  I love the very last seconds, at the tail end of this episode, where Betüş explains to Çilek that there are serious problems with the idea of Suzan, a human woman, adopting Alara, a fairy child (not mentioning the fact that the Fairy Orphanage is hardly a place that a human would be able to find, let alone the paperwork…) so that, unfortunately, they will think of a way to solve the problem by undoing Suzan’s idea of adopting Alara.  That is what Project Do Better works to do, too: find solutions to thorny problems.

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Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e21: How Would YOU Feel…

      Our previous episode was  bölüm/episode 20: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e20: Secrets are Colored by Our Assumptions.   Now, we look at ways that jealousy can be turned around.  Two of our main characters, one child, and one adult who generally behaves more like a child, get to see how they might feel if the situations were reversed and the jealousy was on them.  Cem, the child, is asked how he would feel if someone kissed one of his sisters, and he immediately is ready to go to war.  Dudu, the childish adult, is made to feel as Taci has felt, as you will see shortly, thanks to Birgit’s summary: 

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This episode starts with Celik watching her grandfather (the dog Taji) cry, and Betüs goes to the castle to talk to him. It seems that Dudu, his ex-wife has left the castle to live with her new boyfriend Umur because she feels that she is not respected in her own house.

Father and daughter, I’m leaving

see how you feel then!

Her daughter Eda meets with Tarik, although her mother had forbidden it, and lies about it. Furthermore, Taji had allowed Eda to go and also lies to Dudu saying that Eda met with her girlfriends. Now that Dudu has left, he is desperate.

Eda, Betüs and Perihan get the idea to hide Taji so that Dudu regrets having left and will come back.

When Sadik learns that Dudu and his boss Umur want to move in together without being married, he quits his job. He doesn’t want to work for such an immoral man.

Perihan takes Taji the dog to Betüs to hide him there, and then they tell Dudu that Taji has disappeared.

If you guys didn’t do any magic, then he can’t be lost!

Dudu gets all frantic and starts crying and presumes that he has gone to his daughter Betüs. She wants to look into the magic mirror to find out if he is there. Eda blocks the mirror to give Perihan time to get Taji out of there, and unlocks the mirror afterwards so that Dudu can see that he is not there.

Umur visits Sadik and Betüs to apologize that he and Dudu had only thought about themselves but not about Dudu’s daughters and her dog, all of which she seems to love deeply. He could see that a decision like moving in together should not have been made without them. And he wants Sadik to return to work.

And I don’t want to lose anything as important as you.

Then Umur visits Dudu and talks to her as well about having a break in their relationship.

Dudu then consults the magic mirror again and sees Eda and Tarik kissing at Betüs’s place, and then she watches Perihan and Betüs laughing and talking about the plot they had been planning to bring Dudu back to the castle.

And last but not least, Dudu sees Taji coming into the house together with Sadik and the children. She decides to go to their house. The episode ends with the shocked faced of Eda, Betüs and Perihan when they learn that Dudu is standing in front of the door.

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Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for summary and images.

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Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e20: Secrets are Colored by Our Assumptions

      Our previous episode was  bölüm/episode 19: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e19: Childishness.  This time, to start with the ending, as some suggest, I must confess that I really do miss those Turkish breakfasts with neighbors, of feta-like cheese, tomato (and in Izmir, cucumber) slices, olives, and soft-boiled egg, chatting around the table with the strong Turkish tea early in the morning.  Remember, also, importantly, that fainting is a metaphor for really, really liking something!  When Turks say “bayıldı” they mean not necessarily that someone fainted, literally, but that the person loved something, or was wildly happy, ecstatic, about it.

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The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.

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Fairy Dudu calls her daughters and chief fairy Perihan to her castle to tell them the good news that she and Taci, her ex-husband (now a dog), would try to be together again, now that she had broken up with her new suitor Umur. All three of them faint from surprise, this came too unexpected.

“Not one, not two, but all three fainted, look at this!”

(featured image, above…)

Betüs and Eda cannot tell their husband resp. boyfriend that, who are getting angry because they are keeping a secret from them. Tarik even breaks up with Eda because of it. But what would they tell them? That their father wasn’t dead but actually living as a dog right now? Betüs thinks that the men should accept that they cannot tell them everything about their mother’s private affairs.

“Look, I’m starting to think Betüş is right.”

On a parallel line, the girls Cilek and Ceren are angry that they are always chased away from their room when Cem’s girlfriend Tukce visits. And today they cannot even stay in the living room and watch TV because aunt Eda is supposed to come and see Tarik, who wants to be alone with her. He also tells Firuze to clean the bathroom for some hours. The girls swear that they will never behave like their brother and their uncle.

-When I am grown I will never act like that.

-Ok, Çilek.

In the end, Betüs and Eda tell their partners that their mother had a dream about their father and they had tried to hide it because their mother didn’t want anybody to know. The guys laugh about that and ask for forgiveness, which is granted to them.

“Please don’t be angry, we acted like idiots, please forgive us.”

The final clue: Taci, the father/ex-husband/dog finds out that the happy reunion with Dudu and her breakup with Umur was just a dream. So the rest of the story must have been a dream too …

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      So, at last, this is the famous

“Her anne gibi“

episode (about minute 9:31…)!

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     Also a very nice spot of maturing, Eda is doing, at moment 25:55, when she tells her mother to go prepare a meal while she gathers her thoughts, preparing to tell Dudu and her father something difficult.

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     Finally, the hair coloring issue: little Çilek wants blonde hair because everyone she sees as being admired, from the older kids, to Cinderella, are all blondes.  As the entire episode shows, people are carried very much by what they imagine to be proper, whether it is who an older woman should date, who one’s children should marry, what is the best color of hair, or even what is appropriate to keep secret from one’s spouse (or fiance).  All of these ideas are colored by our preconceived notions of what is proper.  Hence the side-plot with little Çilek’s obsession with removing the color from her hair.  These assumptions of what is proper, of what is even true, in Dudu’s case (and how sad that we get the first glimpse, in this episode, of what she did to punish not only her husband, Taci, for his imagined crime against her, but also the poor woman she saw talking to him, incorrectly!), govern our perspectives so strongly that a mere adjustment, as Perihan suggests in the form of a white lie about a dream, at the end, changes everything.  The boys, Sadık and Tarık, go from obstinately jealous of the family secret, to happily accepting the situation once it is turned toward a perspective that they can accept.  And Suzan, for once, is cursing herself instead of her poor husband, for the same sin, in fact, of putting her nose where it did not belong.  The end of this episode is so sad, always making me nearly cry for poor Taci.   The pain of not being believed shows vividly here, but fear not, our noble Taci will have his day in court, eventually!

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        Project Do Better works to encourage the empathy that studying languages builds, and also works to support #PovertyAbolition work, particularly during Phase I, by advocating housing first and also by supporting public transportation, public health care, public libraries, and public consumer knowledge growth.

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Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for summary and images.

Next episode will be blm/ep. 21: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e21: How Would YOU Feel…  ,

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Hoşça kalın!

Shira

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Thoughtful Readers, please consider reading and sharing, or even writing a guest blog post here, about #ProjectDoBetter.  Phase I aims to build empathy for public goods (libraries, transit, healthcare, and education) via language study and story, among other tools.

Shira Destinie A.  Jones, MPhil

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#LanguageLearning for Global Learning and Fraternal Community?

This was one of the introductory lessons, with your basic verb set, and a very pleasant surprise:

Anyone can learn to conjugate every verb in Esperanto in 5 minutes.

Esperanto is a very simple language to learn, by design.   No sets of verbal endings for different persons, just one per time, and only three sets of times.   Simple, right?!  And a great way to help others learn a language that can help the world become more cooperative.

Given the interest readers have expressed over the years, I thought I might share some of my newest language learning journey here on my blog.  Once I have found others to help with Project Do Better, I will rework my notes in French and Turkish, and then the Greek as I go back to working on it (and maybe the Hebrew, if I am asked to teach Biblical Hebrew again).

Any thoughts on how your previously learned languages help hook the new material?

More soon,

and

        Hopefully, the empathy that studying languages builds, and a little more good example via story, will help all of us learn to be more open to the needs, feelings, and happiness of others.

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Hoşça kalın!  Saluton!  !Nos Vemos! 

Shira

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B5, Hakan:Muhafiz/The Protector, Sihirli Annem, Lupin, or La Casa De Papel/Money Heist Reviews,

Holistic College Algebra & GED/HiSET Night School Lesson Plans,

           or My Nonfiction  & Historical Fiction Serial Writing

Thoughtful Readers, please consider reading and sharing, or even writing a guest blog post here, about #ProjectDoBetter.  Phase I aims to build empathy for public goods (libraries, transit, healthcare, and education) via language study and story, among other tools.

Shira Destinie A.  Jones, MPhil

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#LanguageLearning for Global Empathy and Fairer Linguistic Community?

Here are four more sets of grammar points, from a very nice video maker to be filled in…  🙂

   This video really impressed me for what I wished I had known before I took a job teaching English in Turkey.  This person does a lovely job of explaining how the logical suffixes in Turkish correspond, or not, to those in Esperanto, with the occasional comparison to English.  So, it seems to be a common assumption that many of us who are learning Esperanto come to it after having learned the more ‘practical’ languages in the countries where we may have lived and worked, but now wish to learn the potential international language that could make this world a more fair place for everyone.

Many in the Esperantist community point out that having English as the defacto international language gives native English speakers an unfair advantage in many ways and situations (and I was quite resented in several countries for this reason alone), which would be leveled out by the adoption of Esperanto as an international/common second language.

Esperanto is a very simple language to learn, by design.  Given the interest readers have expressed over the years, I thought I might share some of my newest language learning journey here on my blog.  Once I have found others to help with Project Do Better, I will fill in the French and Spanish, and then the Greek as I go back to working on it (and maybe the Hebrew, if I am asked to teach Biblical Hebrew again).

Any thoughts on how your previously learned languages help hook the new material?

More soon,

and

        Hopefully, the empathy that studying languages builds, and a little more good example via story, will help all of us learn to be more open to the needs, feelings, and happiness of others.

…

Hoşça kalın!  Saluton!  !Nos Vemos! 

Shira

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Click here to read, if you like:

B5, Hakan:Muhafiz/The Protector, Sihirli Annem, Lupin, or La Casa De Papel/Money Heist Reviews,

Holistic College Algebra & GED/HiSET Night School Lesson Plans,

           or My Nonfiction  & Historical Fiction Serial Writing

Thoughtful Readers, please consider reading and sharing, or even writing a guest blog post here, about #ProjectDoBetter.  Phase I aims to build empathy for public goods (libraries, transit, healthcare, and education) via language study and story, among other tools.

Shira Destinie A.  Jones, MPhil

Shira Destinie Jones’ work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.

#LanguageLearning for Empathetic International Community?

Here are four sets of grammar points, from a few different sources, to be filled in, still…  🙂

   Esperanto is a very simple language to learn, by design.  Many of the words, you will notice if you speak French, are quite similar to or even simply borrowed from French, and many also from Spanish as well.  Those familiar with Turkish or even Hebrew will notice that the suffixes and prefixes give roots (the concept of a shoresh, in Hebrew, as I made a few shoresh/word trees for my students when I taught Hebrew school… ) a great deal of flexibility.  Given the interest readers have expressed over the years, I thought I might share some of my newest language learning journey here on my blog.

Any thoughts on how your previously learned languages help hook the new material?

More soon,

and

        Hopefully, the empathy that studying languages builds, and a little more good example via story, will help all of us learn to be more open to the needs, feelings, and happiness of others.

…

Hoşça kalın!  Saluton!  !Nos Vemos! 

Shira

*****************

Click here to read, if you like:

B5, Hakan:Muhafiz/The Protector, Sihirli Annem, Lupin, or La Casa De Papel/Money Heist Reviews,

Holistic College Algebra & GED/HiSET Night School Lesson Plans,

           or My Nonfiction  & Historical Fiction Serial Writing

Thoughtful Readers, please consider reading and sharing, or even writing a guest blog post here, about #ProjectDoBetter.  Phase I aims to build empathy for public goods (libraries, transit, healthcare, and education) via language study and story, among other tools.

Shira Destinie A.  Jones, MPhil

Shira Destinie Jones’ work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.

Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e19: Childishness

  Last week was , bölüm/episode 18:  Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e18: What is Good?   .

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The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.

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Umur visits Dudu, as she is alone in the house, Taci has been sent to the garden, and Eda is at the café. He wants to kiss her and get a bit closer, have an adult relationship. Dudu is horrified and says that her morals don’t allow that out of wedlock, but then, whenever Umur proposes to her, she says no … in the end they break up.

What did you think, what were you expecting?

Cem and Ceren find a dog in the park and take it home. Cilek can hear the dog speak, so it is a human that has been put under a spell by somebody to become a dog, just like Taci.

It says Safiş on the collar, but we didn’t find her owner.

Betüs finds out that it is a 55 year old woman who has been turned into a dog by a male witch. Taci meets her at the café and tells Dudu about it later. Dudu is obviously jealous but doesn’t want to admit it.

That gives Eda the idea to take the dog, her name is Safye or Safi for short, to their mother‘s house to make her even more jealous and maybe will be willing to turn their father back into a human and live with him again. She is certain that their parents still love each other. They will, of course, ask if Safye is willing to help them.

Maybe mom and dad can help find a way to do something.

Dudu claims that she cannot reverse the witches spell, and Perihan has a free day, so they have to wait for a couple of hours. Dudu keeps a close eye on the two dogs.

They tell the kids that they have found the dog’s master and brought it back. The kids are sad although they had the dog only for one day.

Umur has a man to man talk with Sadik about his problem with Dudu. Sadik tells him that he is a player, an untrustworthy guy, but Umur concludes that there must be somebody else in Dudu’s heart. He visits her again and asks her if his assumption is correct, and she answers “Yes”.

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Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the Stella, oh, Stella blog, for all of the of the English and image content, today.

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      This episode was interesting for showing how Taci’s simple respect for a lady could turn Dudu into such a jealous wreck.  Also, it must be remembered that dogs, in Turkish culture, are not seen as very clean or respectable, so of course this is why Dudu chose that species for her supposedly cheating husband, Taci, and why she equally suspects Safiye Hannım of being less than respectable.  In this episode, Eda and Tarık also show their childish sides, again, when asked to watch the cafe, and Betüş angrily says she will never trust her cafe to them again.  Umur Bey also gets a lecture or two from Sadık on his childish ways, which he of course rejects.  Even Avni and Suzan are being childish, with Suzan insisting on finding a job, despite their having plenty of money, to annoy Avni, who continues to watch the Fairy house, like a child.  In the house at dinner, Tarık is especially jealous of the private conversation between Eda and her sister, refusing to see reason.  Even the three kids are childishly jealous of the unkown owner of Safiye Hannım, not wanting to see ‘Safi’ leave their house.  Given Tarık’s childishness, Betüş is looking for a new employee, and just as she finishes mentioning this to some clients, Suzan walks in, dressed for job interviews.  And she finds one: at Betüş’s Cafe!  Dudu, as usual, is more childishly jealous than ever.  And power combined with jealously is not a good thing.

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Next week will be blm/ep. 20: Sihirli Annem (My Magical Mom) s1e20: Secrets are Colored by Our Assumptions  ,

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Hoşça kalın!

Shira

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Babylon 5, Hakan:Muhafiz/The Protector, Sihirli Annem, Lupin, or La Casa De Papel/Money Heist, El Ministerio del Tiempo  Reviews,

Holistic College Algebra & GED/HiSET Night School Lesson Plans,

           or My Nonfiction  & Historical Fiction Serial Writing

Thoughtful Readers, please consider reading and sharing, or even writing a guest blog post here, about #ProjectDoBetter.  Phase I aims to build empathy for public goods (libraries, transit, healthcare, and education) via language study and story, among other tools.

Shira Destinie A.  Jones, MPhil

Shira
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