Last week, we saw Çilek arrived!! (ep8 ), and asked about Turkish Tuesday (Türkçesi salı günü): Sihirli Annem (s1e8) and #LanguageLearning for Orphans? .
This week, we see bölüm/episode 9:
The summary comes from a fellow blogger (Birgit)’s point of view.
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Sadik comes home beaten up. He interfered with a neighbour hitting and punching his wife. The neighbour then hit Sadik and told him not to meddle with his private affairs.

“I looked up from the ground as this guy was stomping me!”
The whole family is horrified about the way the man treated his wife and their father. Betüş wants to go to the neighbour and give him a piece of her mind, even the children roll up their sleeves and want to join her. But Sadik tells them that the police came and took him with them.
Dudu, who watches this scene through her magic mirror gets the idea to turn Sadik from gentle lamb into a brutal macho, which should Betüş want to divorce him.

“If I turn Sadik into a jealous, heartless macho…”
Eda brings a letter from Betüs’s friend over and scoffs at hers and Sadik’s loving behaviour, as she knows about her mother’s latest spell. She is jealous of the good relationship her sister has. She also thinks that their father prefers Betüş and is sad and jealous about that too.

“Just wait until tomorrow and see how your thoughtful wonderful husband is!”
Dudu’s spell is successful, and Sadik is starting to behave very badly towards his whole family the next morning. He even hits his boss, when he calls him incapable.
Dudu watches how badly Sadik treats Betüş now and is happy that they will soon be divorced. Taci, her dog/husband cannot understand how a mother can do that to her own daughter.

“How can you so heartlessly hurt your own child like this?”
Taci got out of the castle in the meantime and went to Perihan to tell her everything about Dudu’s nasty spell.
When Sadik nearly hits her, Betüş takes Cilek the little fairy girl and goes to her mother’s castle. There they find Taci gone. When Cilek sees how much Betüş loves and misses her father, he regrets having been so disrespectful to him when they first met.
Eda comes back from a date crying because her boyfriend (Eminem) dumped her. But when she hears that her father is missing, she forgets all about her own trouble and tells everybody to look for him. They cannot find him, and when they get back to the castle, Perihan is there. She tells Betüş about the spell that her mother has put on her husband. Eda seems to be ashamed, while Dudu still claims that she did it for her daughter’s sake who would be better off without her silly husband.

“But if you feel nothing for Sadik, didn’t you at least think of me and the kids?”
Perihan forces Dudu to revoke her spell and punishes them to go to Iraq and eliminate the war damages.
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Many, many thanks to Birgit, of the
Stella, oh, Stella blog, for all of the of the English and image content, today.
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So my question, Thinking Readers, is this: at moment 5:22 (5 minutes into the episode, so easy to find it…) in the episode, Taci says to his wife Dudu:
“Yasamadin tabii, bilemezsen.” / “You haven’t experienced it, so of course, you wouldn’t know or understand it.”
But, must one actually live through an experience in order to understand it, really? There are studies which show that both foreign language exposure and also reading novels help to build the ability to see from another person’s perspective, so are there not, clearly, then other ways of being able to understand the pain of another person without directly experiencing it oneself? He (Taci, her former husband now unjustly forced to live as a dog) explains to the disdainful Dudu that women like Firuze are often trapped by economic or other circumstances in abusive relationships which they have no power to get out of without some kind of outside assistance, especially financial as well as emotional.
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Notice that Betüş also has no understanding of the neighbor lady’s reasons for not divorcing her abusive husband. Having a protective (at least from all but herself, Dudu, that is) family makes a tremendous difference. Having grown up protected until she decided to oppose her mother’s will, even Betüş Fairy cannot understand tolerating such an abusive relationship. The rich, either in money or in family love, cannot understand being alone in a hostile world, at least not without looking into it carefully.
Right, Thinking Readers?
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For instance,
from moment 14:32 to 14:44, the kids (rich in comparison to her) tell Firuze about free resources to get computer tech. learning for her kids, which will in turn help all of them over time.
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Hoşça kalın!
Shira
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