(Originally posted in 2020, updated for the current pain:)
The Turkish book I’m currently reading is mentioned below the short incident on Judging on the Side of Merit.
I was thinking of an episode of a show, Magnificent Century, from Turkey that has been quite popular in many Spanish-speaking countries, and how much I love an early episode showing the entry of the young Sultan Suleyman (The Lawgiver, to the Turks, but known in the west as:) The Magnificent. His new subjects shout as he rides by: “Remember that you are not greater than God!” and the young ruler takes his duty seriously, alleviating several glowering injustices on his first day as Sultan. Yet, I had some experiences when I lived in Turkey that show how defensive any ordinary person can be, seeing another person who seems to represent some injustice.
I wonder how I would react now, to this same situation:
I was just reading the comments of the founder of NVC on reactions in a refugee camp. It struck me that those reactions were the same as the reactions to me in Izmir. When I lived in Izmir (in 2005, from March to November), teaching English, one day one of my neighbors saw me walking up the stairs toward our building, and she took my arm (as women often do in Turkey) to walk with me and talk. But her talk was more of a harangue. She let loose on me about how my government was blaming them for a genocide which they insist did not happen, and that it was all very hypocritical, particularly when the US operates Guantanamo. I was thunderstruck that she would hold me, a person who had left my country of origin to find a job elsewhere, and to whom she could direct this rant only because I was one of the rare expatriats to spend the time and effort to learn Turkish, responsible for the Apology request. So, unfortunately, I responded defensively, pointing out that I personally had nothing to do with my government policies, did not agree with much of those policies, and had not voted for the administration then in power! None of those defensive arguments changed her speech. Now I see that, like the man in the camp, she needed to vent. I wonder if, had I allowed her to vent, simply listening and validating what she needed to say to any random American, would that incident and relationship have ended more positively?
Read, Write, Dream, Teach !
So, it turns out that people all around the world can be both kind yet also defensive, sometimes at the same time. There is a Jewish concept called Dan LeChaf Zechut: Judge on the Side of Merit, or as we’d say, Give the Benefit of the Doubt. I shall try harder to do that these days.
September 29, 2020 –page 1
kayadan, … kaya
More on my continuing striving with Turkish next week.
Yassas, γεια σας! Salût ! Nos vemos! Görüşürüz! ! שָׁלוֹם
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