Beauty as a liability

       While most people I meet are a bit more tactful, one person I met in 2012 back in DC, from Europe, remarked upon seeing me that “God must have made mixed race people more beautiful so they wouldn’t be rejected.”   Once I got over the shock of her lack of manners, as we hadn’t even introduced ourselves, I tried to explain to her that I am not mixed, but Black, aka African American, these days, although it says “Colored” on my birth certificate.  She refused to hear that, insisting that I could not possibly be Black, insisting that I could be from Greece, or Italy, or any part of the Mediterranean, like her.  I chalked it up to her culture, and turned the subject to her publications, which then took up the rest of our meeting (no, she never asked me about my works).  So, I wrote this poem as I pondered that meeting, and wondered how we could ever build a world that can work to the benefit of us all.

This is in a page of my Ideas Notebook that missed this poem in the corner, being covered by a sticky note (page 5…).


A blessing, and not a curse?

Really the head, and not the tail?

Has G-d made us the in-betweens, the rejected,

beautiful for a good reason, not for our torment?

Not for us to languish in ironic solitude

Cut off by the miserable jealousy of the “pure bloods?”

Can this beauty really bring peace,

and not death?


    I find at least some solace in hoping that the work we all post on our blogs may make it out, eventually, to show how cooperation and long term empathetic thinking may change our society to one of kindness.

Action Questions:

1.) What, do you imagine, can we do to eliminate prejudice from our society?

2.) How would you share this idea?

Action Prompts:

1.) Share your thoughts on how we can build empathy in our society today

2.) Write a story, post or tweet that uses those thoughts.


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14 thoughts on “Beauty as a liability

  1. Love your poem. I have a friend who vaguely looks Mediterranean but is half American ( white) and half Phillpino. She likes how whichever group claims her makes her feel included, not excluded. I thought that was a neat way of viewing it.

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        1. It seems to be, which is why I work so hard to put something together that may, over the long term, actually help us hate less, and work together more, if only we all shared a vision of a kinder society for every human baby.

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        2. To be sure, I like to hope that actual hate is not in ascendance, but the appearance of hate, so that we can actually do something about it sooner, rather than later.
          Either way, education is the key, it seems to me, and libraries!

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    1. Glad you find it moving, JYP, and I hope that this helps, in some way, for others to avoid having similar experiences.

      If you have time, I’d love your thoughts on the Do Better book: I’m really missing your feedback, since you’ve been following it for so long before…

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