Thoughtful Thursdays and building an Adult Freedoms movement to stop child abuse (trigger warnings)

A friend told me that each person, especially one who has withstood particularly vicious childhood traumas, should share one’s story. She gave similar reasons to why each person should write a book

–The argument is that one can protect others by telling one’s own Story, thereby breaking the Silence-Shame-Intimidation-Exploitation cycle.

How? I suppose that as one progresses, and learns how to overcome, those lessons learned along the way can help prevent that same harm from befalling other vulnerable people. But, again: how?


  1.  If the first childhood memory is one of sad anger, of loss, the green Caddy driving to NYC may impede, for a lifetime, that love of large cars and of the Big Apple that so many Americans seem to boast. If that memory is tied to a borough where the kids rejected you, and your next memory was of being locked in a room, at 4 years of age, hearing your mothers screams as furniture fell and things broke in the living room, as her boyfriend beat her, how do you use this to protect others?

By coming up with a plan for teaching children to protect themselves from silence, from shame, intimidation and from exploitation, via:

                                 A New Adult Rite of Passage.

2.  If one survived CSA at 6, and was told by one’s mother not to tell, how do we protect children from parents who can protect neither their children nor themselves? -Teach kids that Silence = Death, because silence can lead to suicide, after a few years.  Do this via a set of

         Prerequisites to Adulthood.

3. If one took refuge from bullies by running and retreating, how to undo that shame? -Teach kids that we ALL have aright to our personal boundaries, to equal bodily respect, and to equal human dignity. And, teach all kids various types of self-defense, starting with an appropriate martial art.

4. If one was refused self-defense because “young ladies don’t fight” but came home in bruises that were ignored, how does one learn to stand up to intimidation? -Teach kids that it is ok to stand up and defend oneself (did I mention age and size appropriate martial arts?).

5. If one was again abused as a teenager, how to learn not to exploit nor be exploited? -teach the words “I Refuse” and (did I mention martial arts?), for the bleak necessity, that it is better to be bruised or broken on the outside, than broken on the inside.

So, it seems that one’s story can be more productive than just talk therapy.   Perhaps one story can help many people. 

Action Items in support of protection and hope that you can take right now:

1.) Think of two things you can do to help build more empathy into our culture.

2.) Share them with us in the comments, here, please.

3.) Share your thoughts on how those two actions or ideas would eventually help build a safer and kinder world for all people

4.) Write a blog post about it, and share that link for us to re-share, please.

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11 thoughts on “Thoughtful Thursdays and building an Adult Freedoms movement to stop child abuse (trigger warnings)

  1. Hmmm…I would agree that every person should feel like they can share their story if they want to, and also that there is positive value in reading the stories of others, including the difficult and traumatic ones. However, not everyone wants to share their story and they shouldn’t be pressured into doing so by saying it will benefit society to read it.

    Also, as a society, I think we need to become better readers and listeners of stories (especially the stories that don’t fit the narrative we want) before encouraging everyone to share their stories.

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    1. “However, not everyone wants to share their story and they shouldn’t be pressured into doing so by saying it will benefit society to read it.”

      Very good point: I think there is benefit to sharing, but not if that sharing is coerced.

      “we need to become better readers and listeners of stories (especially the stories that don’t fit the narrative we want) …”

      Absolutely true.

      How do you think, if you have any energy to provide some further ideas, we can help this process along?

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      1. Such a good question! This (NSFW) comic by Matthew Inman over at The Oatmeal talks about why it’s hard to listen to information that challenges our worldview in a humorous and accessible way, and he admits there isn’t an easy way to retrain to become a better listener.

        His is more around factual information, not stories, but I think a lot of the same initial feelings and reactions apply when a story doesn’t fit the desired worldview/narrative.

        On a macro level, I am no history scholar, but looking back on my education, the tendency to simplify history as binary X vs. Y strikes me as inadequate. Or maybe my education was fine and I only remember the X vs. Y. It isn’t necessarily untrue; X and Y were not necessarily morally equivalent, and sometimes it’s a huge disservice to try to treat them each so even-handedly, but I think even then, there is still a lot that gets missed. So perhaps, the goal is to read more well written stories from a young age, in a classroom setting, from the eyes of different people during those events.

        Which comes back to your point about the importance of sharing stories. A bit circular I suppose, the need to encourage the sharing of stories and reading/listening of them to encourage them to be shared.

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        1. Hey, I’m circular, too! I agree that much gets distilled down to binaries, especially in the US, and at the very least, being encouraged to be curious an ask genuine open questions from a young age, as well as reading a wide variety of perspectives, is key.

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